Tatham replied to the topic 'Advice for 14 year old with attachment issues' in the forum. 11/28/2017

This sounds fun for you both! When he is told he can't come to you it is just another rejection, failure letdown. Have you tried giving him something of yours (not to valuable, but important to you) to look after for you while he's not with you? This way he will understand that you will be there next time as he has to give it back to you, You are not going to leave without whatever you give him. This will give him some sense of security, which is totally missing in his life. He will also know that he is important to you and that you will be thinking about him while he's away. It is a long process and his negative behaviour is a way to make him feel secure as he is checking if you stay or go.

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Tatham replied to the topic 'Advice for 14 year old with attachment issues' in the forum. 11/28/2017

Maslow' hierarchy of needs is very important to enable us to understand these children. If the bottom parts of the triangle are not met then development, learning and progress will not be made.
https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

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