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Advice for 14 year old with attachment issues

3 years 10 months ago #366 by Brimbach
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You know how many people would not even care- your thoughtfulness and care is probably more than the kiddo gets from most people- hang in there, you might have more of a positive impact than you will ever know!

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3 years 10 months ago #367 by Sheryl
As you guys were making the last few posts here the special-needs class that was scheduled to come here an hour ago turned the bus around, sent me a message and said the kids were misbehaving so they took them back! think it would be outstanding to make this thread public. I really really really need some good talking points to discuss with the head of special ed so that this doesn’t continue to happen. Chantal is right on about not making this a reward but an actual treatment to help these kids with the behaviors the educators are frustrated with!

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3 years 10 months ago #368 by vandaleigh
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Hey troy ....not sure what you think of this but maybe you can "write a letter to the teachers" and send it through him . Don't seal it . And his curiosity will probably get to him and he will read it . And just let it be a letter explain that he should not be denied to come to you guys and how much you guys enjoy his presence and it isn't fair etc . The purpose being not for it to be important that it reaches the teacher but that he expects it will be a letter that he does something wrong and he sees that you guys are advocating for him and like him which is the c9ncept of unconditional love which is safety .....i think all the punishment and extrinsic motivation build distrust . And if he does give it to the teacher then great too? And offer a training for the teachers about MM or what you guys do and tips for him ?

Sounds like your doing great though ?

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3 years 10 months ago #369 by One Acre Farm
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Great idea Vanda

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3 years 10 months ago #370 by vandaleigh
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I also started with a familybwith teens here giving them poems.....their favorite songs are like poems and then let them write something on it......think this helps with theory of mind and perspective taking but also is just nice to express yourself on paper or drawing which is less explosive lol plus I think teens connect with music a lot

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3 years 10 months ago #371 by Tatham
Maslow' hierarchy of needs is very important to enable us to understand these children. If the bottom parts of the triangle are not met then development, learning and progress will not be made.
www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html

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